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Couple therapy and family counseling:
peaceful solutions for difficult situations

We cuddle up blissfully when our parents read fairy tales to us in the evenings. And we learn: Once Prince Charming marries the Princess, both end up living happily ever after. Many years later we come to realise that the actual relationship work often starts after the wedding. And most of us have not been well prepared for the relationship work with our partner – nor for the one with our own children.

But this work is extremely valuable and rewarding.

If you are living in a foreign country as an expat  or in a culturally mixed relationship this can add to your challenges. Having grown in different countries and cultures I am happy to accompany you no matter where you come from.

What can I do for you?

1. Couple therapy

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
The relationship with my partner is very strained at the moment; we constantly argue about unnecessary things; conversations always escalate although I do my best not to provoke a fight.

It is the most normal thing in the world to have two people want different things. Loving each other does not put an end to your right to have your own opinions and needs. How to deal with them can be a big challenge however, especially if everyday life has found its way into your relationship. Conflicts can arise which, if left unresolved may harm your love for one another.

Let’s discover good new ways to
get from damaging to healthy conflict patterns; feel real closeness and trust again; experience your partnership as a source of energy rather than an energy drainer.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
When I compare our family to others, we are actually doing well: the daily tasks are split up in a good way; my partner and I work together as a team and we complement each other well. Nevertheless, something important is missing - in the midst of organising our everyday life, love and passion has somehow disappeared.

With or without children, at some point daily routines which offer familiarity and security dominate your life. However, this can also lead to boredom leaving you wondering where the butterflies in your stomach have disappeared to and whether this is how love was meant to be.

Let’s discover good new ways to
find that spark again; revalidate your partnership and remember why you fell in love with your partner; actively create moments of magic as a pair.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
Topics I would never have expected are standing between us; sometimes I feel that my partner is from another planet; when I try to explain my point of view I feel like I'm running against walls where there used to be openness and tolerance.

The world in which we grow up feels normal for us. We don’t realise that rules established in our culture may not be valid in others and what is normal and what is not can be completely different. The first step is to become aware of this and to look at the values and issues standing in the way of your relationship. The next step is to find individual solutions for your differences.

Let’s discover good new ways to
tackle your major issues of conflict; realise that new and different perspectives can also enrich your life; learn to embrace them without giving up your own.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
I really don't know whether it's better to go or to stay; injuries have occurred I can simply not forget; our partnership is a battlefield which I cannot take anymore but at the same time I want to stay and I see no way out of this draining conflict.

Regardless of whether you come to me as a couple or alone: I will be happy to help you gain the clarity you need to make a decision. And end the exhausting conflict within you as well as work on whatever you need to so as to be able to accomplish the steps necessary successfully.

Let’s discover good new ways to
clarity for a very important decision in your life; look at your worries and fears in the face of separation; understand your relationship and communication patterns; prepare important conversations with your partner.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
I want to break up and am faced with difficult decisions: How do I communicate the breakup to my partner? To my family? What reactions do I have to expect and how can I prepare? What about the kids? How do I deal with the financial issues? Where will I live? How do I deal with the pain of separation and make life easier for everyone involved?

Lots of questions and some of them can be pretty scary. I will help you put things into a good and feasible order and prepare difficult conversations and situations. I will also make sure the ride ahead is emotionally as smooth as possible and support you if and when it gets bumpy.

Let’s discover good new ways to
plan your future family life; deal with the issues involved without being emotionally overwhelmed; overcome your fears and insecurities.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
I am afraid my separation will harm my children; I don't want them to suffer and feel guilty about the divorce; I want conversations with my ex-partner about visiting and custody rights to be as relaxed as possible.

Fortunately there are quite a few things you can do to de-stress the situation. As an experienced family counselor, I will be happy to help you with the bumpy ride ahead and make your separation as stress-free as possible for your children and yourself.

Let’s discover good new ways to
plan a good and stable future for yourself and your children; implement the necessary steps in spite of emotional stress; find good solutions if problems should arise.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

2. Family counseling

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
I am worried about my child's behaviour; I don't know why but it has changed a lot lately; it is acting aggressively and I don’t understand why; I feel it is withdrawing to a world I don’t know; I would really like to find out more and understand whether this is just a phase or whether there is something fundamentally wrong.

There are a lot of reasons why a child changes and displays behaviour which is worrying. As parents you don't always get to see what happened. For example your child may be experiencing mobbing at school. As an experienced family counselor I can help you figure out the missing parts of the puzzle and offer you the possibility of a neutral opinion from an outsider. As a counselor but also as a learning coach, I have worked with children of all ages and gained a lot of insights to challenges your child may be experiencing.

Let’s discover good new ways to
understand your child's situation; clarify whether further steps are necessary; dispel doubts and uncertainties.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
I'm tired of the exhausting everyday fights over small things; my child is ignoring rules and agreements; our relationship is very strained due to ongoing fights and quarrels and something needs to change soon.

Your children don't always want what you want – that is normal and of course frustrating - for both parties. Dealing with frustration and anger is challenging for all of us, as we have rarely learned to deal with these emotions in a good way. Children need rules, but they also need parents who can set limits well. Let’s analyse your daily areas of dispute and develop new solutions for a peaceful and happy family life.

Let’s discover good new ways to
find out what makes you as a family; regain strength and confidence in doing so; eliminate disruptive behaviour; achieve a positive relationship with your children.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
My child is having a hard time at school; it doesn't want to go to school anymore and I don't know how to change this; it often has stomach and / or headaches and I don't know if they are fake or not.

Kindergarten children are very proud and happy when they are finally old enough to go to school. Unfortunately, this can change because school systems don’t always fit the needs of your child. Even if they do sometimes things happen in the life of a school child which creates difficulties – in school but also outside of school. Let me help you resolve them so that they don’t end up being permanent and major problems. With my wealth of experience as a learning coach and family counselor I can help you find good solutions.

Let’s discover good new ways to
better understand your child's current school situation; find solutions to learning problems; decide what kind of support if any is necessary.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
My child finds it difficult to deal with people; it avoids eye contact and has few or no friends; it prefers to stay at home and doesn't know what to say when strangers come home.

There can be various reasons why your child has a difficult time establishing contact with other people. This doesn't always have to be a big deal, sometimes it is enough to clarify a few things with your child and give it the time it needs. Look upon me as a neutral person who can give you professional and open feedback. With my extensive experience in helping children of all ages, I can also help you find new solutions where necessary.

Let’s discover good new ways to
better assess your child's behaviour; take action if and where necessary; make your child's life easier.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Typical statements from clients – sound familiar?
My child has lost a close family member and is struggling with the pain; we got divorced and my child is suffering from the separation; we have moved to another home and my child is having difficulties settling in and making friends.

Children have fewer strategies than adults and therefore often lack solutions to problems. As a family counselor but also as a grief counselor, I can support your child in processing the loss and leaving the pain behind. Also I can help it develop new strategies and solutions for the future.

Let’s discover good new ways to
help your child with its current pains and problems; make life easier for your child and reduce the pressure; prepare your child for future challenges in a good way.

Ready for the first step? You can reach me here

Unable to find your topic? Then please write me an email and I will be happy to get back to you with a first response free of charge.

About me

As children we learn from the people around us. Therefore, our family of origin shapes us early on and more than we often realise. Without knowing it, we develop behavioural patterns which we perceive as “normal” later on. But at some point in our lives they can actually turn to stand in the way of our lives and quite often this shows in the way we act as parents. Some of us end up with the shocking realisation that although we never wanted to be like our parents we have actually become like them. Not surprisingly, these patterns also often stand in the way of our relationships as a couple.

Wanting to learn all about these challenges and family dynamics I started my training as a family counselor at familylab (Jesper Juul). My additional training as a mediator helped me understand that family systems consist of different members with individual needs and interests.  Resolving conflicts resulting from difficult communication patterns is always a very rewarding task for me as a coach.

You can find more information about me and my training here.

 

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Everything starts with a conversation. Let me help you find good solutions for your family and couple challenges. The preliminary conversation is free of charge and after that you can end your coaching whenever you like. Get in touch today:

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